Wrapping Up 2011

I'm a wrapper-upper kinda girl.

2011 is going to get a nice moment on my blog and then it's history. Not that it was bad, it's just...history.

In my little world, here's what 2011 was like, just to catch some of you up: Jack changed jobs mid-Spring, and it was not at all a step up. But sometimes God uses real life to show us what it means to go low, to show us what really matters, to find our sufficiency and worth in HIM ALONE! I began 2011 feeling awful, even after almost a year of therapy for adrenal fatigue/sleep disorder stuff, but in May, God began to raise me up! In June, I started running every morning. In July, I was able to run 3 miles at a time! I started sleeping 10 to 11 hours a night instead of 12-13. (That was a nice difference to me and my life!) I felt like myself again, and that self had been so far removed for so long, that "grateful" just isn't a big enough word to describe how I feel. With summer going away, I haven't felt awesome, but I have been, still, much much better than years before. I have a list of things I do to feel well. Would love to share with anyone in the same boat!! Also, God has put several relationships in my life that I get to invest in and be blessed by! I love you, Wednesday night college age girls!! We are also a part of Open House, a church plant in E-town, and we love our small family there.

Selah Jordan finished K in May and started homeschool 1st grade in June, and we have absolutely loved the freedom and meaningful time together that the homeschool life brings. There is a constant rearranging of schedules and routines, due to all kinds of things, but we do pray and try to keep first things first. Selah, as well as our whole family, has really grown in the Lord this year! She prayed to receive Christ as her personal Lord and Savior and was baptized Nov. 6th. She is investing her time in a quiet time every day and I have seen her minister this year in special ways to many people. We are all involved in FAITH homeschool co-op and we LOVE it. She's actually moving on to 2nd grade now, and some of her curriculum is 3rd grade, which is one of the great things about homeschool (she can work on her level) but for all purposes outside of school work she will still be a 1st grader!! No skipping grades. She especially loves Science and Bible. She likes art but tends to rush through; and she likes piano, but getting her to remember to practice on her own is more work for me than her, so we have to figure out a system there. (Now I know how parents of my students feel!) Selah is a total and absolute joy, friend, and jewel.

Yemi Abigail has changed and grown and come alive this year!! She is so funny, smart, sweet, and beautiful. She is also mischievous and sneaky and goofy. She loves to make people laugh and lately the answer to any question posed to her is: "Cuckoo head." She loves to play with her toys, especially puzzles, and even though she gets in trouble for it almost every day, she cannot resist sneaking into Selah's room and ever so quietly playing with her barbies. She is addicted to movies, especially CareBears, Dora, and Elmo, even though she only gets to watch about an hour a day if that. She just now started caring about school type stuff (she's 3) and is learning to write her name and asking to do homeschool. What amazes me about Yemi is that she is fully a child and enjoys it! Selah wanted to grow up, didn't appreciate the simplicity of those years...Yemi is the opposite. She is in no hurry, and it's wonderful! Because she's not aiming to get approval through knowing things or being smart or whatever, you don't realize what she knows until it just comes out one day...like when she counts something in Spanish or looks over in a field and says, "There is one white horse, 2 brown ones, and 1 black." The "cuckoo head" thing really disguises a great mind in there!! But I say let her hide it and have fun as long as she can!

And in less serious and frivolous issues...in 2011...my Top Ten:

1)Favorite New (to me) Artists: Matt Maher, Phil Wickham, Addison Road

2)Favorite Purchases (I know this is corny but I love these things!): World Map shower curtain and a perfectly sized zipper cooler that holds our water bottles and snacks so we don't have to eat out

3)Favorite Movie: Limitless and The Muppets (-awesome comeback, muppets!)

4)Favorite Online Find: Pandora, what an awesome concept! I enjoy it but also it has helped spread my songs, and I am really humbled and thankful for that. Honestly my music was just sitting there for a couple of years while I was ill and taking care of my family, etc. Now, people are hearing some songs and I am constantly shocked by the response. (It's small, but it's certainly more than the nothing going on before. I want to clarify that I don't feel like I deserve for people to find and like my music, I am simply surprised and grateful that it is happening!!!!)

5) Favorite God Thing: Sister Bridge. Getting to partner with 3 ministries, share them (and their handmade, beautiful items) with my friends and family, and send gobs of money back to women in need...yeah, that was my favorite God Thing!!!!! Looking forward to Lord willing doing it again next fall. I can't thank the women in my life enough for their care and investment in the women God loves around the world!!!

6) Favorite Books: Abba's Child by Brennan Manning; Brokenness by Lon Solomon; Choosing to SEE by Mary Beth Chapman; and then there are the books I constantly read year to year--Adoration by Martha Kilpatrick, 100 Days in the Secret Place compiled by Gene Edwards, and some other works by Fenelon and Guyon. These books I have mentioned have shaped my theology, and I cannot describe the peace and purpose I feel in my life and walk with God because of the questions answered and principles learned in these pages. Obviously, I highly recommend!

7) Favorite Exercise and Health Stuff: I'm always talking about Tired of Being Tired by Jesse Lynn Hanley; it's phenomenal and was a huge part of God healing me. Also, I love Jackie Warner's Power Circuit Training workout video; it easily was my top pick of the year because it has 15 minute weight lifting sessions that make a difference!

8) Favorite Netflix Find: Drop Dead Diva and Samantha Who? Very fun shows!! Watched them all at least twice.

9) Favorite New Song I've Written: I sang this at Behold the Lamb this year so a few of you have heard it, but it's called This Year. It's about God's faithfulness and that whatever comes in 2012, I want to go there with Him. I want Him to do whatever He has to do to make me ready for His return.

10) Favorite Simple New Concept about God: He wants us to fully receive and revel in His Love. When we become Christians, we are saying, "Lord, nothing matters more to me than receiving this love that I don't deserve." But then maybe we forget and think we're supposed to move past it, putting the focus on ourselves and what we can churn out for Him?? Nothing matters until we receive and revel in His Love, not ministry, not even obedience. We have to love HIS LOVE more than we love or want anything else (from Him, from life in general), and when we do that, life is a win-win situation. When His Love is all we want, everything else becomes even less than secondary...and since you cannot lose His Love, you always have your primary need met! Win-win!!! The loss we feel is when we love our lives and our opinions about what our lives should look like MORE THAN we love Him and His Love. We idolize our own lives and we say it's because we want to live for Him and we say, "how can I live my life for Him with this problem in it?"...at least I say that. When this is happening, we simply have not tasted the goodness, the richness, the completeness, of His Love. We see trials as a hinderance instead of an opportunity to come to Him and prize His Love above all answers and help and solutions.

In 2012, let us drink deeply of His Love!

Christmases Past

Christmas 2010

Yemi's First Christmas with us, 2009; She was 17 months old.

Sisters Finally Together! Christmas 2009

(Christmas 2008; Selah was 3. She seemed so much older!)

Christmas 2008. Yemi was 5 months old, and we had our picture of her as our Christmas gift!

CUTIE PATOOTIE CHRISTMAS 2008

Life and Death

There have been a lot of things lately that have taught me and challenged my beliefs in the area of suffering and especially in the area of death. The book by Mary Beth Chapman, music I had written coming back up in my life, a book about Brokenness, even a seemingly random newsletter from a missionary, all are driving home the point that the line we cross from earth to heaven when we die is so very thin. That space between is just...like a door of mist instead of this confusing and thick barrier I had imagined. I guess I'm just trying to say that Heaven feels closer than ever, and I feel like God wants me to understand just how transient, how able to move and pass through, we frail humans are. I feel like He wants me to grasp that it's okay, that it's normal, that it's not as much to grieve about as I think. We were destined for that all of a sudden passage, and in my mind I can absorb that with some sense of understanding and thankfulness, but the hard part is that we are only transient in one direction. We cannot so easily pass back.

That probably sounds ridiculous. But I can see why saying we are a vapor, a mist, makes complete sense. We are as real as water (we even are so much water!) but this is just our body for a while...not our Life. Our expectation of health and longevity only can be agreement with the Lord's expectation for so long...at some point our belief about all this, all we expected, even for our kids sometimes, breaks down. Again, I don't know if that makes sense to anyone but me, but I think this is part of learning humility to accept and even accept joyfully that we are frail and destined to make that passage. I do imagine a river and I do see friends and family passing through it to the other side, and I do see a lot of joy. And I see that those of us remaining here on this side are not very far from them at all. Just a mist separating us.

I guess I really want to say that when the Lord takes me, I know that there will be some people who are sad but I pray that however I go, that everyone knows I was created to go and I'm not far at all. This time is just a prelude to our lives. We were really never meant to get so attached. Perhaps living in surrender (which should be our goal) is really God just preparing us for a life and theology not built by what we want all this to be about, but what it is all about.

So, one more thing to add to the list of God revealing frailty and the reality of us passing so easily from earth to heaven: Selah and I went to a funeral today for a family who is grieving the death of their tiny baby. She was 26 weeks in the womb. I only knew a couple of people there, but I just felt, "This is the family of God. These people are grieving with hope." It was very worshipful, giving God glory, thanking Him for everything humbly...and at the same time, there were lots of tears. What I saw was surrender, not pretending things were great, but trusting the Lord. I am convinced that is beautiful and priceless to Him. A girl sang a song about Heaven and how we'll just fall down and thank Jesus for the cross. YES! That's what this is all about. We can't only think about that at funerals. I am sensitive to Selah seeing too much sadness and death, but today it was fitting for her to go with me. Her friend was the older sister of the baby who had went to be with Jesus, and Selah and this little girl held hands and even held each other throughout the service. I feel like I watched the body of Christ in action, with Selah, the singer, the pastor, friends and family ministering...I was such a bystander and learner.

I am not always proud of the family of God or the body of Christ around me. I realize how that sounds, but I'm not always proud of myself as part of it either, that is for sure! Sometimes I feel like the North American "Christian" thing is not the "Christian" thing the persecuted church or rest of the Body worldwide experiences because we often find the wrong things to get busy doing or focus on. In fact, I think we are so wrong that even our right actions are just digging us out of a deep hole. MERCY. But I'll digress about that simply to say that TODAY I saw the family of God and the body of Christ right here in Elizabethtown, and it was beautiful. Dealing with bad news and grief is never what we would choose, but it is the reality of this world, promised in the Word, and God is THERE with them...and us, when it is our time of grief. We don't ask for opportunities like this so that God will come near, we just don't do that, it would be crazy; but nonetheless, He is near to the brokenhearted, so when we can't find Him, that might be where we should look, and so running scared from heartache might not be the position we should take! We have a security and excitement in life or in death...We have one thing that will be transient with us...Jesus. And if He is our One Thing here and now, we can see death in a different light.

So Much To Say...

Well, there is so much to write about and I need to be in bed in...oh dear...I need to have *been* in bed 13 minutes ago. Oops. Anyway, I just have to give the Lord thanks on this semi-public forum--

Yesterday he had an accident at GE; he was welding or cutting some steel, which was on a forklift, and a 500 lb piece of steel became unbalanced and fell from about 10 feet and hit him on the head. He was rushed to the hospital and we didn't know what was happening except that he was talking and conscious, but didn't know if it was a life threatening situation or not. Within about 30 minutes we found out it was not...and within about 3 hours, we were so blessed to find out that he didn't have any broken bones or internal bleeding, just a deep gash. A friend of my mom's had a word from the Lord before any of this information had come in (my mom had called and asked her to pray at a time when all we knew is that he had been rushed to the hospital). The word was, "It's okay, I sent my angels to soften the blow to his head." She did not know he had been hit in the head, none of us did at that time. But this is exactly what had happened. It was truly a miracle that he wasn't crushed or killed! We are in awe and so thankful for the Lord's protection, and we realize a little better, too, that God protects us from tragedy all of the time.

On another note, very randomly from this story, please pray for my little family! We really feel like God wants to do something new in and with us. We are seeking Him and studying Isaiah 58; that's the passage Jack preached from the evening he proposed, and it still fits the life we want to lead. I don't think we lead that life nearly as much or how I imagined, but we are putting ourselves in a posture to hear from the Lord. If that means we stay here and adopt more children, I would love that. If that means we go to a different mission field, that would be really great as well. Jack really would like to have, I guess I should even say needs, a new job; I, personally, am content here as I'm homeschooling and getting involved in some adoption groups, singing again, etc. But either way, discontent with a job or content with life here, that isn't reason to stay or go or whatever! We just want to know what the Lord wants. We want to hear His voice, His still small voice. Pray for us as we set aside time and availability to hear Him.

Last Christmas

I'm kinda thinking about not decorating this year for Christmas. For no reason except that I feel like I am always moving stuff around and cleaning and...yeah, that's not a good reason. Here are some pictures from last Christmas to maybe get me in the mood. Thought I'd reminisce (that was Word Girl's word of the day today)!

So we'll see. :)

Necessities?

I have a strong desire to live simply and for the most part, in a lot of my natural inclinations as well as actions, I do that. I do it for many reasons--some to be frugal, some to be more thankful for what I have, and some so that I can give more money to things other than me and those around me that already have basically everything a human could and should want!

Anyway though, my dear Mother who also lives simply and much more generously, said to me, "Lyn, I'm always buying stuff like shoes, tights, whatever the kids need. Do you and Jack need anything? If so, go get it and I'll pay you back." I wrote her back, "oh gosh, no, I don't need anything." But then I got to thinking about it...it was kind of like a door I never open...or rarely anyway. And so here's what I've ended up with.

Dress socks. Oh my goodness, I have never had a pair of dress socks in my life and rarely have I needed them, or so I thought. My, my shoes fit a lot nicer with dress socks. Ha! And glaring white doesn't stick out above my shoe when I cross a leg. :) I got a pair of sandals so that I can chuck ALL my flip flops. I'm in my 30's. I LOVE flip flops but the $3 variety has been hurting my back. They are brown and you will see them on my feet pretty much every day between May and October next year, unless I'm barefoot, which is even better. I also got a pair of warm fuzzy clogs that will make the winter truly more bearable. Oh, and some new underwear! I guess I did need some stuff, Mom.

Truly these things aren't necessities and I know it. Through my years of this journey of wanting to live in equality with the least of these, which OBVIOUSLY isn't happening, I have grown and learned and am not finished at all. In the process I've had to budge a little and find a balance so that my family doesn't go berserk. It's still on my heart though to absolutely revolt against the system of this world, or maybe just this country, because while I am grateful for what I have, I can't forget how weird it is that people all over the planet don't even have shelter and food. I'm not that smart, I'm not proposing that I know how to fix it, and I can't even point to what we're doing wrong. But somehow it's just wrong, simply because of the result of it. So, my blog is taking a downward turn right now--sorry about that!--but this is me, living in the middle of this thankfulness for my new pack of underwear and also wanting to lead a revolution for equality and seeing to it that WE will not be guilty of having too much while others have too little. Oh, Jesus, show us how to live out Your Kingdom here and if we're in too deep to be able to see our way out, shine a great big light!!!

One of the Best Days of My Life!

On Sunday, we celebrated. Whoa, did we celebrate! Eight people were baptized in our churches (I say churches because it was a joint service between Open House and The Bridge Community, both of which I dearly love). It meant so much to me for several reasons. Let me go ahead and count the ways...

1. Our daughter Selah decided to follow Jesus and was baptized! YAY! I have seen her grow so much while we have been homeschooling. Quantity time is her main love language, and I have seen her flourish under that in ways I couldn't have predicted. Also with the quantity time of homeschooling/not being busy outside of our home very much, we put our hearts and minds, therefore our attention and schedules, to spending time with the Lord. Since praying to receive Christ, she has quiet times and reads her Bible, as well as all the conversations, worship times, and Bible we do together. She shared her testimony (reading off of Post-It notes!) from the baptismal and it was just wonderful. The public thing wasn't the best way for her to show me that she gets it though; she topped it a couple hours later. We were laying on the bed together taking a short nap and she said, "Mom, sometimes in my quiet time, I say to Jesus, 'The precious blood, the precious blood. I know that's gross, but it's like a newborn baby, it comes out all gross, but it's beautiful and wonderful.'" It's all about the blood covering Jesus offers to us. There is so much more as she grows that she will understand and she will rededicate her life (I hope) a million times, because I certainly do...but she knew she needed Jesus to forgive her of her sins and she has yielded her life, attitude, wants, decisions, to Him. Every year that will evolve into more she is offering to Him, I pray. And in the same regard, every year will bring more that she can receive from Him!!!

2. My friend Loren was baptized and I got to share her testimony for her! She was a little shy to talk in front of everyone. I'm so excited and proud of her. She rededicated her life to the Lord just a couple of weeks ago in our small group; we walked through the Romans Road together because even though she has always believed in Jesus, which truly is enough, she had never had a specific time in her life where she called on Him and officially confessed with her mouth that He is her Lord and Savior. We called it her ammunition against Satan, who was causing her to question her salvation. Now she has a date where she made a profession and was baptized, and BY FAITH in God's Word, we know that the covenant has been made. As Selah said, "Our relationship with Jesus is like a knot that cannot be untied." Loren has made the decision to turn from specific sin that used to be in her life and live for the Lord, whatever He calls her to do. We will continue walking together and I'm excited about the younger Christian friends she is making. If anyone needs a girls college age small group in E-town, we have one!

3. It was one of the best days of my life because of what God taught me through the book I wrote about last week, Choosing to SEE by Mary Beth Chapman. Her perspective on death, burial, and resurrection is life giving and hope filled. She describes someone dying and being buried as a seed being planted into the ground, and how when Jesus returns, our bodies will be raised imperishable--we will bloom and live with Him and each other forever. We are in winter now, in so many ways...but spring is coming. Jesus is going to come back, just as surely as Jesus Himself beat death and rose from the grave. We are in winter right now, in death or at least a deep freeze, in a time of waiting, a time of advent, kind of like the gap between Malachi and Matthew...As much of a positive and happy person as I am because of the joy of the Lord I cannot escape and don't want to escape the reality of the brutal world as it is right now. This is the season we're in. We have to make sense of it Biblically to the best of our ability. And part of that making sense of it is knowing that when we are "buried with Him in baptism", we die to our worldly way of viewing life in the flesh and we are "raised to walk in newness of life", meaning that now we are alive to the spirit. Our Life becomes hidden with Christ in God. Our life (lower case l on purpose) is what it is, and God is surely reigning over those details as well, but our Life (upper case!) is of the spirit, it's all about what we can't see. Therefore, yes, we need food to keep our bodies alive, and yes, God has things for our bodies to accomplish on this earth, but our spiritual life needs to be kept alive and our body's accomplishments will flow naturally without toil as our spiritual walk is our focus. We must be more attentive to the spirit than the flesh, and in that focus, both will thrive! In Heaven, we are spirit. To prepare for that, we must live as much in the spirit as possible.

Do I know what I'm talking about? Not totally! :) But praise the Lord for His Spirit that takes us deeper daily, as deep as we will choose to go.

Mary Beth's Book

Before I hand it back to my friend, I wanted to make sure I didn't miss writing about Mary Beth Chapman's book, Choosing To SEE. I picked it up and like any great book, I could not put it down. I think I read most of it standing up even, before I realized I was hooked and gave in to the cozy chair in my dining room.

Mary Beth and her husband, Steven Curtis, who I'm sure you've heard of if you've ever listened to a Christian radio station in your life, have lived through an incredible journey. She tells briefly of her life--marrying, seeing his career take off, having 3 children, and then adopting 3 little girls from China. Those stories are inspiring and I love their heart for adoption. Reading this book made me want to adopt again regardless of several sensible reasons I have to not adopt again, at least not at this time. They have also started two ministries, one of which personally affected our family. I'll never forget the day I got the letter saying we were receiving a HUGE grant for our adoption in 2008 from Shaohannah's Hope! This ministry helps Christians adopt, since finances are often an issue. Their other ministry is Maria's Big House, which is a home to many babies and children in China who have severe special needs and may never be adopted. (Just as a side note, I am learning that with governments slowing down what was already a slow process in regard to international adoptions, working with ministries who are on the ground in these countries helping orphans who will never be adopted is an extremely valuable ministry. I love that we grew our family through adoption and would do it again in a heartbeat, but sponsoring children, visiting them, and supporting ministries like the Chapmans have birthed, may be the path my fire is going to take...but I still want to be a mommy to more of them as well!)

So, the second half of the book is about the last 3 years of the Chapman's lives, and those are the most painful years and the most painful pages. She describes the days surrounding their daughter Maria's death; how this "sweet and sticky" 5 year old left this earth to meet Jesus; and what the Lord has done in this family's life since that tragic day that changed their whole world. Mary Beth talks about the community that surrounded them, that was an amazing picture painted. Something that really gripped me was that in their grief and loss, they really had to decide if they believed...if they believed in the reality of Heaven, if all this Jesus stuff was TRUE or not. Because if it was true, then yes, they could grieve with hope. They couldn't get stuck (and they didn't) in the place of "why"; they were so mature and humble to not stay there! Their hope was not in being able to ever understand. Their hope was set on the truth of the gospel, that Jesus was with Maria and that they would all be together again someday when this short life is over.

There are some miraculous events that happened to them as encouragements from the Lord. Little things that were just sweet of Him. One of my best friends has said to me after a tragic event in her life: "The Lord has been so sweet to me this week." It takes a lot of faith and humility before the Lord to say this, and these fellow sufferers have that in common. Suffering really does make us come face to face with what we believe, and face to face, eye to eye, with our Savior. None of us would choose suffering, but it's worth it...ouch...that hurts to even say that, but I know its true. He really has overcome the world, this world He promised would be full of trouble. The great news is that when we are surrendered to Him and not holding on to our way and our wants anymore, it is a win-win situation. Earth, Heaven, life, death. In all four, we have Jesus, if He is our everything. I believe this perspective is the key that so many believers carry--all around the world Christians are living in unimaginable realities, and have the peace of Christ.

The last thing I was left with:

The Chapmans believe that God has entrusted them with "hard" and they feel it is their responsibility to steward it well. That is astounding. And true. And a new thought to me! It is making me think in those terms..."What have I been entrusted with? How can I steward it well as unto the Lord?" This story is an ugly thing for their teenage son, Will, who was driving the car that hit Maria, to learn how to steward well. I'm sure he is saying, "Anything else, Lord, anything, but not this!" So, the seemingly good (talents, skills, spiritual gifts), the seemingly bad (our pasts, weaknesses, even sins we keep fighting), the seemingly pointless (difficulties or disabilities we personally face in relationships or jobs, stuff that is happening with our kids that we are just trying to get through), and even the seemingly ridiculous (quirks and weird stuff that God deposited in us that makes us us) are things we have been entrusted with and must decide to and learn to be good stewards of. No skeletons in no closets, friends! Nothing unusable. Hmm...

I recommend reading the book, even though it brought on a couple of speechless days and dream filled nights. While she tells the whole story of the accident, she doesn't dwell on that; she moves quickly and intently through the rest of the story. Anyone who has grieved will gain insight into their own pain through reading this book and those of us that have not experienced anything of this sort can truly benefit as well! I've said for a long time (as Martha Kilpatrick's personal puppet) that we MUST develop a theology for suffering! It's here and it's not going away; what does it mean and what do we do with it? This book shows a family who has developed their theology for suffering and millions are growing stronger in their faith as they steward their story well.

Ah...Breathing Again

I have no idea what I have learned from the past two or three weeks. It's just been weird and a blur and I would like to be able to say that I handled it well. Instead, I'm exhausted and just now beginning to resurface.

Okay, that may be a little overdramatic! But I am honest in saying that I have to look at my calendar to remember what happened!

So...it all started in an effort to be open minded. That was my first mistake, haha. Jack and I love the idea of moving and starting fresh somewhere; we love the idea of doing a ministry together; we are dreamers and adventurers and sometimes you get tired of talking and you say, "Let's do it! Why not now?"

We have looked at a couple opportunities, which interviews went pretty far, only to spend weeks praying, journaling, discussing until we're sick of talking, making pros and cons lists, and even making some preparations to move, seemingly for nothing. I had a hard time sleeping and my biggest regret is I had a hard time connecting with the Lord. I felt chaotic inside as these decisions were being worked through and I hated it; yet I wanted to be open minded enough to consider these changes, because they were opportunities that I really could see us doing someday and we both are kind of looking for a change. I couldn't say: "God is telling us to do this." But I shy away from saying that like I used to. Did God tell me to do Sister Bridge or make this CD? I don't know! I prayed for years about these things and the desire didn't leave and the opportunity came. Same with adoption, homeschooling, and many other things I've committed to.

So I'm breathing again because of the two things I was able to articulate with some of my students today with their help (the adult ones, haha! I don't usually verbally process to my elementary age piano kids!)

#1 I feel like I have come to the conclusion that I am not ready for a season change, that God is not asking me for a season change yet. Pursuing Him, focusing on my marriage and kids and home, is truly a full time job. I wasn't looking for more, and when "more" came knocking, it was not necessarily tempting, it was just that I wanted to make sure I wasn't being closed minded if it was the Lord. But I think, THINK, that God is saying if we move it needs to be for Jack's job/calling, not mine, because mine is non-negotiable right now. As much as I love missions, adoption, worship leading, singing/songwriting, etc., I can only do those things so much as they take their place in priority well under those other things I mentioned. I feel a peace in my spirit about that and am going with it!

#2 If I am wrong and I am just throwing away opportunities to do some neat stuff where the Lord would work past my limits and through my weaknesses, which I know for sure He CAN do, then I will simply miss out. I am choosing to take that risk. I know He sees my heart and my motives are pure, to the best of my knowledge. If I can't handle what other women handle in their schedules or hearts or minds, who cares? I have to live by MY limits, meaning when I get to the place where I am missing HIM in the fullness I could have Him in, and I am missing my husband and kids in the fullness I could offer to them, which happens to me often, then I have to take a big step back and make sure I am being faithful to the calling I have received. So, all that to say, I may be missing the mark big time, but if I am, I am doing it for Him. I just can't take the risk of missing what matters most.

It bothers me that during these days of decision making, I felt so distant and dizzy. Surely God didn't want me looking at anything or anyone but Him during these days...but I just couldn't think or see straight. Hope God has mercy on my pitiful self when I really do have to make a big life change! :)

But for the time being, whether we move or not is uncertain, but I do know I am not open to anything that would feel like it was a stumbling block to that which I refuse to lose in the shuffle. I heard the quote somewhere that when your priorities are clear, your decisions are easy. Wish I would have remembered that 2 weeks ago.

Breathing Out Gratefulness Today

I am truly breathing out gratefulness today. I have a blurry mind full of bits and pieces of images, words, and feelings, but it's all good. I'm thinking about how girls in Bible study last night said that beauty is defined to them as "inner peace in the midst of chaos", that huge smile Yemi gave me when she turned around in her stroller to look at me today, and the wonderful feeling of my soft blankets which I crashed in just a bit ago!

It crosses my mind often: I live a charmed life! It is so cool to be able to like what you have and love where you are and what you're doing. I am obviously so blessed to have 2 healthy and radiant daughters, much more energy and health than I have had in years, a wonderful and supportive extended family, my dear husband, and the list truly does go on. But it does occur to me that there have been plenty of seasons of life where I had lots of beautiful God gifts in my life but still was hoping for one thing more, one something more.

I am just breathing out gratefulness today because God has given me the grace and peace to live MY life, which means to me that I am accepting and trying to give my best to what He has clearly put in my lap. I'm not looking for more, and I am not searching for my importance by finding more to invest in. Maybe you've always been there, but little Miss Overachiever here did not always know that peace and rest in my soul. What's really neat, too, is that as knowing Jesus takes first place in what I really care about, a relaxation settles in about the other things I am called to do. It's not that those things (singing, making the CD, Sister Bridge, being a mom and wife) aren't important or that I don't care about them, it's just I realize they are not MINE. They really are God's and for His sake. When we aren't concerned about our legacy or reputation anymore, the floodgates of freedom really do open wide! Freedom to just want Him, not get "our panties in a wad" about things, even good God things, and freedom to let Him do what He wants through us as our eyes are elsewhere...

Maybe it's kind of like baseball. I never was good at hitting the ball. When people said, "Keep your eye on the ball", I really wanted to hit them instead of the ball. ARGH! I mean, what does that mean??? Anyway, supposedly if you had your eye only on the ball, you could trust that your arms and the bat and whatever must move to hit the ball would swing around and do its job naturally. But your attention needed to be solely on that ball. Not on your arms or the bat. Same with Jesus. When our goal is to seek His face and know Him better every day, everything else falls into place. I am learning to not keep track or look at what I'm "doing for the Lord". I can hardly stand to even write those words because it's just not like that anymore, thank the Lord! I get far too impressed with myself, or far too upset with myself, and God wants our attention on Him, not ourselves. I'd really like to go through life oblivious and unaware, trusting that as I continually am emptied of myself (sin, opinions, hardheaded ways) and then filled with Him in a living and genuine way, that HE will have freedom to use my life (and I don't have to know about it.)

Well, thanks for reading...More from Creative Counterpart by Linda Dillow next. It is such a good book about being the wife God is calling me to be. :)

Sister Bridge

There are several things that I really love and it is super fun and exciting when those things collide. Sister Bridge is a collision of many favorites: I love the nations and missions, I love beautiful material, purses, natural looking jewelry, and quilts, and I love sisters in Christ standing together and helping one another out!

There are such amazing ministries and devoted missionaries out there who are living among the poor, the least of these, widows, and orphans. I love sponsorship, adoption, and mission trips...but there's always need, therefore there's always more room for great ideas! And I've had the desire for a long time to be a representative or "middle-woman" you could say between these ministries/missionaries with good ideas and the people they are helping and everyone here in my small circle of friends and family. I've always wanted to be a voice, and I just had to "die" to it. All the talking, blogging, song-writing, singing, wanting to do something...God definitely wanted me to lay it down and stop worshipping the desire to be useful. And laid down it was.

When all of a sudden this summer I had the opportunities fall in my lap to start connecting with these ministries that gave a skill and an income to at-risk women in three countries, I was surprised! But the timing was right. It is such a joy to just enjoy this, and let God build the house. I want to be really clear that Sister Bridge is nothing more than an idea and I needed a quick noun to say "the people that get the inventory and organize selling it to people in the U.S., connecting women to women all around the world!" You can simply go through Sister Bridge to help these women in Cambodia, Indonesia, and Swaziland...OR you can go online yourself and purchase things! (The Cambodia one, not yet, but hopefully soon we can help them make a website/shipping availability).

As I said, all we are doing is getting the inventory here and keeping track of the money getting back to the ministries. NO ONE profits from this except for the women themselves, and these organizations reaching out to them are fantastic. If you are interested in the 3 ministries and want links to their websites, just check out Facebook.com/SisterBridge. We have items to sell especially in this time of year when people are shopping for Christmas gifts; not sure what inventory we will keep after that. We can give you everything you need to have a party or just bring to your small group, bunco, girls night out, whatever. The items are gorgeous, incredibly reasonable in price (most things are under $20), and original...not to mention the point here: partnership with women who are so much like us who simply do not have the same opportunity for their needs to be met.

I pray Sister Bridge can truly be a bridge between "us" and "them", connecting us until we really do live with equality on our minds and compassion in our hearts. This desire to make a difference, or "do something", is a journey of our own hearts and minds changing. There is no quick leap. And living how we live, surrounded by this constant slurring of our needs and wants, sometimes it feels impossible to ever cross that bridge! I don't believe in just "doing something"; His sheep must know His voice. If helping women in this tangible way is something you'd like to do this season, just contact me and we can help make it happen.

Health Stuff

It is about time to change my blog picture! No more running through the slip and slide...however, I think yesterday it would have been okay, since it was at least 80 degrees! You won't find me complaining...til January! No, I have every intention to enjoy all the seasons, even if I have the personal opinion that winter takes over too much of the year!

Anyway, just wanted to write about my pursuit of healthiness today. A long time ago, I wanted to do some nutrition info groups at my house and blog more often about the things I had learned, things that got me back into the land of the living! But honestly, January through May 2011, I felt like crud again and didn't have much passion to share anything with anybody! Then in June, I started feeling so much better, started waking up early and going running 5 mornings a week, and just all kinds of amazing differences. So, I just wanted to briefly share encouragement of how that came to be in case anyone else needs a little hope...

First of all, Jesus. Always it's going to be: First of all, Jesus. Surrendering my health and future to Him, going through the process of accepting whatever He chose for "my" life which is really His, was a huge part of my journey. Before I got better, I truly had peace that my life was just as valuable and full in bed as it is up and doing all these things, because my LIFE is hidden in Christ and cannot be touched by the things of the physical realm. Amen! Coming to this truth is a long journey that I am still on.

Secondly, I read a book "Tired of Being Tired" by Jesse Lynn Hanley and saw Shelly Roby at Nova Medicine in E-town. I began to live by the knowledge (not perfectly at all, but applying what I could) and taking special pharmaceutical grade supplements that Shelly saw through my blood work that I was depleted of. I did this for a year before I saw improvement, but now I am so glad I persevered! I know now that our food just does not have the nutrients in it that we need, so I eat incredibly well plus take these things. The cost is so much lower than meds I was taking...and I am on NO prescriptions now.

Third, I read (so randomly it seems but it was the hand of God) this tiny paragraph that said, "Sometimes patients who have underwent gall bladder surgery need to be cleansed of the toxins introduced to their bodies under anesthesia. They simply need to do a liver cleanse and take Kyolic garlic supplements in large quantities." OH MY GOSH. I thought, "How amazing would that be if it worked?" I had that surgery in Africa in 2000. I did what the book said, and that is really when I started to see improvement, in about 4 weeks. I felt so well I literally began running 5k's. I definitely still need 11 hours of sleep a night or I crash back into all the old symptoms, and I must continue in all the other therapy included in the book "Tired of Being Tired", but everything is manageable usually if I do what I know.

For anyone tired, not sleeping well, overweight, sick often...read that book! It's like $4 on Amazon! I have definitely learned how important it is to invest in my health, because I'm not sure how other people are, but I struggle emotionally, socially, spiritually, and mentally if my physical stuff is a wreck. If I haven't gotten enough sleep, I make poor food choices, I'm more likely to feel depressed, I do not have perspective with my husband and kids, and then I'm an emotional mess. It's like I can choose to live in a pit and live my life always climbing out of it...OR I can avoid the pit altogether as often as possible. Disciplines like time with God, exercise, and eating healthy don't always feel like they fit in my "I just wanna be carefree" mood...however, by doing these things, I am much more carefree!

It's definitely a passion of mine to share these tiny tidbits I have learned with women who are not getting to live up to their potential, so if you are reading this and want to talk about any part of it, I am available!! Just let me know, and we'll do this together. :)

Creative Counterpart by Linda Dillow

I have had this book Creative Counterpart by Linda Dillow on my shelf for many years, and have read it many times. If nothing comes of all of this moving stuff around, and we stay here in this house another decade, finding this book will have been worth the mess! I was -okay, am- finding myself in a difficult season of marriage. We are going on 11 years! Yay Us! But certain things in our relationship that are steady and constant are not very good things, and certain things that are good are not steady and constant. I bet you know what I mean.

So I needed a good dose of truth. A talk with a friend really helped me realize some things about myself and brought some perspective. It was hard to talk about it, because I know I am blessed and don't like to be negative and complaining. But sometimes it is just good to hear myself say certain things out loud and look at them out there in the air...I needed to remember I am responsible for myself, my reactions, my heart attitude, and that I must stay in total humility and desperation before Jesus because I do not love my husband like I should, but HE DOES! Hallelujah! And when I don't love my husband like I should it is not because of my husband, friends, it is because of me. Regardless of the details, Jesus can give me love to give, but I have to do the work to stay in that place of receiving (so that I can give).

So, this book...Yes, that's the thing I want to share. This one paragraph says so much. Chapter One excerpt:

"Yes, there are frustrated wives, just as there are frustrated engineers, airplane pilots, and karate instructors. But the frustration does not stem from the nature of the work; rather, it comes from the boredom inevitable in any job done poorly or unimaginatively. (OUCH and HELLO!!! I like this woman. She's a truth-teller.) A creative counterpart is more than just a helper. She is a woman who, having chosen (or having found herself in) the vocation of wife and mother, decides to learn and grow in all the areas of this role and to work as hard as if she were aiming for the presidency of a corporation."

The fact is, I did sign up for this. No one forced me to marry, and no one forced me to marry the specific man I married. I am so lucky to have had that choice and my daughters will have that choice as well. Maybe we chose or will choose other vocations as well, but that doesn't mean that we are not responsible for being excellent at this particular vocation of wife or mother or just woman. It's a beautiful task. Women are amazing, and I want to keep perpetuating that good image, especially in a world where men and women alike value women by their weight, looks, or accomplishments outside the home. Hey, I think weight, looks, and accomplishments outside the home are fine and dandy...but they are not the most important thing, by far! We can, by God's grace, be professionals at this. I am encouraged and challenged by this!

Secret Place: The Job of Our Lives

I am just struck tonight by a secret that I don't want to keep secret. There is a secret place, and those of us who are "in Christ" know this...we know that we could be in a living hell on earth but we have a Life hidden with God in Christ, and that life can ALWAYS be thriving, abundant, lush, full of laughter and pure joy. Our Life makes us strong and shining in our life, if we develop this Life. It's a secret place, we go there alone; it's the throne of God, the lap of God, the face of God. Friends can remind us of that place, oh thank the Lord for friends that draw us to remember or find this intimacy with our Father, but we go there alone. We look eye to eye with Him, and by faith, we dwell there. We connect, like when you lay down next to your child or spouse or dog (haha) and just have some face time. And this is where we draw our strength, perspective, focus, and LIFE.

It's like finding out you won a million bucks, going to sleep, and when you wake up, you remember you won million bucks yesterday! It wasn't a dream. YAY! That's how the secret place is. There is relief, there is always good news, there is something beyond all this, and we have it right now. WOW! Life gets so hectic and troublesome, and I mess up so very much, and I'm so tired of myself...and I want some relief. I go to the Lord and lay myself before Him in the secret place, and it's an oasis for my spirit! I go and I say, "Jesus, I don't have to feel anything, I come by faith! I want to give myself to YOU, You don't have to give anything to me!" But He does. He leads us beside still waters, He restores our soul. There really is a hiding place, an oasis...we can wake up from the sometimes bad dream of life and enter into our eternal life, anytime, any place, through intimacy and connection to His Word, praising Him, repentance, surrender, talking, listening, teaching, friends who love Him.

Keeping our life consumed with Jesus is THE job of our lives. I personally don't have room to get caught up with anything else, if I am going to make knowing Him the job of my life. I do other things, I care about other things, hopefully all that He has told me to do and care about, but those things ARE NOT the job of my life. Those things are just...obedience...they'll come and go. They're passing. I wasn't created for them. I used to think that stuff for God, stuff that was about God and His people, and knowing God personally was the same effort, the same job. Oops! It sure does take a load off when you can obey the Lord without all that burden. The job of my life is to know Him and believe Him, and while that is not heavy, it is all consuming work.

One thing I run to the Lord and hide from is myself. I just want to be so honest here. When I write a blog or talk at a concert or something, I am always honest and I am always 100% myself. But most likely when I am writing or talking or singing, I have just come from having intense and intentional times with the Lord, I am somewhat drunk in the Spirit, and if you see freedom, or confidence, or joy, or truth, you are seeing Jesus. Sometimes I am consistent with this "being intentional" with the Lord, and I am very blessed when He helps me do that. I love those steady times, such ground gets covered, oh it's just so wonderful and I'm an idiot to not continue in it! But many other times, I'm sitting in a pit, and I'm a fool. A literal, biblical fool. The good news is, despite my example, we ALL have the opportunity offered to us to have the most fantastic relationship with God EVER MADE, if we will go with Him and make it. We can go where "no man has gone before"...if we want.

I wrote a song in the past month and I don't really like it, but there's one line I love. It says: "I am ruined for anything less, I am ruined for anything less than the fullness." Yeah. May we be ruined for anything less. Unable to go back after what we have experienced in Christ. Lose our appetite for the world. Move on past baby milk, move on past old sins. Crave repentance and obedience and God's delight in us, and not have room for craving other's attention, approval, and applause. Forget that stuff ever ruled us. Amen.

Content to Go, Content to Stay

It really has been a long time since I blogged! Usually Monday evenings are my only chance to write (and do many other things!) since my mom and dad take my girls for the night. Yay! I absolutely love having them home, but it is definitely nice to have 24 hours to do other things. Like clean the basement where 1/4 of it was gutted due to mold, prepare for leading songs at Open House on Saturday, get stuff in piles for Goodwill, go for a walk...You get the picture.

So, of all the things rolling around in my mind, what do I actually want to write about?

I will tell you that last week we prayed about moving to Cincinnati. Jack really wants to be back in youth or college-age ministry, and we have always talked about being open to moving. Now when it got down to it, when we truly were considering the move, it was so overwhelming. How do you do it? Oh my gosh! I had visions of myself grabbing onto the front step and not letting go. I thought, "What about that playground we just built outside one year ago? Okay. That settles it. We cannot leave it there all alone!!" But of course the realistic sacrifice, the hardest thing to let go of, are our family and friends. Grandad in the nursing home, Jack's mom rarely in good health, my mom and dad, their closeness to our girls, friends who are family. Not that any of the family needs us; we are not in that kind of position or relationship where anyone depends on us, but just being around, mainly for them to get hugs from grandkids, is what makes my heart hurt when I really think about moving. And Cincinnati was just a couple hours up the road!

Jack said no to the position...Just was not the right thing at the right time. But at the same time we were discussing that possible move, we had sent off our resume and application to a nondenominational Christian boarding school/academy in Texas. With all the pulling on my heart strings aside, I absolutely love the idea of moving to live at this place! It really would be a fun adventure for our family, all of our needs met, including school for the girls if we decided to let them go instead of homeschool some day. The job is resident parents, and we would live with 8 other kids/teens. Today we got an email saying they would like to have a "phone visit".

I don't begin to think I know what will come of this. There's a part of me that says, "Are ya crazy? Why would you leave when you are so loved here?" but then there's another part of me that says, "But Jack isn't getting to do what he loves here, OR be with his family much for that matter, and it is awesome to know that we are free to go...and come back, too, if we want to." I can honestly say I am happy here, and have a very full life. But certain ideas would get me out of here in an instant, such as the idea of starting a home or care point for street kids in Ethiopia, or something where as a family we are getting to be ourselves, use our gifts, and share Jesus with people who need Him. I don't know if the Texas thing fits that or not. I know that my love of discipleship, parenting, teaching, and singing would all come in handy, plus my desire to keep learning Spanish. I love the idea of my family getting out the crudilicious Ohio Valley and be free from many allergies. My family would get to live on a farm and have lots of cool opportunities. This is a part of me that I can't escape: I love love love the idea of living with the people I am called to. When I was a missionary, that was basically my only request. I needed my own space to call my own, just a room and a door because I know I'm an introvert and have to hide away sometimes, but I did not want to drive across town to be with my people. I wanted to do what they did, live, speak, eat, suffer, celebrate, just like them. I didn't need to be taught that in mission school; God gave me that instinct and I still have it. I think it's important in making a decision to see if what you're considering goes along with some core parts of who you are.

Of course, being married that can be quite tricky! I require sunshine, I really do--Jack hates hot climates. I am drawn to international places, poor, dirty--Jack? Not so much. But he balances me out, and I absolutely trust that God brought us together as a check and balance. If we are both walking with God, He will lead the way. I really am content to go, content to stay. My great adventure is Jesus Himself, not where He leads or what He does through me.

A New Day...Tomorrow?

I have a lot to do today...and just spent an hour on the couch watching the latest episode of Drop Dead Diva and eating cookies...so I will write quickly. :) The past week and a half has been such a blur for me. I really really really want to get back on my feet again, and several times I thought I was but fell down again. Not literally. That would be funny though.

Basically a week and a half ago, we gutted a part of our basement which had mold and I've been sleeping in Selah's room upstairs ever since. I've felt tired, haven't been making the best choices (hence the cookies), and just feel overwhelmed. Today's Monday and I was thinking that today would start fresh and new, but I guess my whole family is zonked because we all slept 12 hours last night and weren't exactly shining this morning.

Anyway, one thing that I am truly excited yet also overwhelmed about is that Jack and I, after so many years of talking about it, are applying for ministry positions that would take us out of Kentucky. I swing from side to side on the pendulum, thinking, "Why would we do that? because our friends and church and family are here! That's crazy!" to "We don't want to feel stuck in this house and this job. We want Jack to get to spend his work hours on things he cares about and is gifted in. We want to go on adventures to make us stronger as a family and couple. We don't want to have regrets; we want our kids to have a variety of experiences!"

So, you know, I am so excited about this possibly actually happening...So excited about what may be out there for us. After what we have been through the past few years, just to imagine that way of life really being a thing of the past thrills me. Sickness and bad work experience gone. Wouldn't that be amazing? Already, this summer has amazed me. Getting to make this CD, getting to do such fun things with my kids, getting to homeschool and be involved in enrichment, getting to lead worship at church sometimes...those were all things I had completely died to. I surrendered them and did not expect them to come back around, but God had perfect timing. In fact, when they came back around, they came back to an entirely new person. The absence of all of those things changed me, because I found the Lord in such a fresh all consuming way. He is my Life, and all these details of what I'm involved in and how I spend my time are led by Him, but they are not my life. They are not my priority or the real meat of my existence. They're just what I do with this body as He fills it. That may sound really strange, but to me it changes everything.

So, back to being overwhelmed...I just need a few faithful days under my belt, days where by God's dwelling in me I make good choices and lead my self into submission. I wrote myself a note one day a while back, saying, "How about if you just stop falling into the pit in the first place, friend? Then you won't have to do all this work to get out of it." Duh, right? This one took me by surprise, and I definitely feel a Hand reaching down to help. The knowledge that I cannot stand on my own two feet is a remarkable help because it reminds me to come to Him instead of muster up something good in me...

It Is Worth It

Have you ever heard that song "I just can't seem to get it right today..."? It's on an iPad or some Apple product commercial I think. That is exactly how I feel about this entire week so far. When you consider time at the pediatrician's office a good counseling session, you know things are rough!

I think I just feel that as I am feeling better and getting out into the social world again (Ah, it's nice out there!), I might be getting out of balance. I might not be setting good enough boundaries. I don't know. Only the Spirit of God can clue me in, and I know He will, and as I prayed about it this morning I had a peace in knowing that if I needed to, I could make about 4 phone calls and let go of everything that I have invited into my schedule. That's nice to know.

But I think the deeper issue I'm experiencing--and this is just total honesty here because I don't fear people's opinions at all anymore--is that I am selfish and not content giving my full attention and giftings to these three people I have been entrusted with. I realized at Yemi's 3 year check up today that perhaps why I am so frustrated with her and her little 3 year old behavior is because I want us all to co-exist in this house peaceably without me having to drop whatever else I'd rather be attending to. OUCH.

When I took 5 minutes to just lay in the bed alone with Yemi at her nap time today, I have never seen such smiles! (I mean, since 2 days ago when she had ice cream at her Mimi's!) She is so good at playing alone that I guess I've gotten used to going about my merry way as well. Selah on the other hand is the same girl she was at birth; I can sum it up in one word. Demanding. So between Yemi really needing more attention from me and Selah needing to stop demanding more attention from me, I feel very alone and very thankful that I only have two kids! I don't have someone rescuing me at dinnertime every night. Jack's work schedule leaves me alone with the kids, let's see, something like 24-6! It's just me, and lately when someone asks me to do something (something that at some point I probably said, "Hey, if you need someone to do that sometime, give me a call") I find myself obviously saying no but then also being a little peeved, like a cartoon character pops up in my mind and yells, "WHAT DO YOU ALL WANT FROM ME?WHAT MORE COULD I GIVE???"

It's like if I give someone milk at breakfast, you better not cross me by asking for juice instead. Watch yourselves! :) Okay, joking aside, through my counseling session at the pediatrician's office and blogging today, I can clearly see that I have gotten in over my head and my attention needs to come back home. It really gives me joy to know that God loves my family (and me) enough to demand our priorities get straight. I hate busyness and a full mind. I want my heart and mind open for the Lord at all times. I know there are tasks to fulfill, but if there really isn't a time and space for those tasks, it is clearly not the right season for them. Pray for me and may God bless your homes and schedules, my friends!

A Walk with A Friend

Tonight I got to spend an hour and a half with a young lady whom I have known for at least 7 years. She was 12 years old when I met her! I love and admire her and her parents, and as we walked together this evening, a lesson made itself abundantly clear.

When you grow up in a good home, you most likely had three balanced meals a day...Therefore, when you played ball in the yard or at school, you had the energy. You probably took vitamins or at least someone was making sure you had your nutrients, so you got up in the morning feeling good (or at least by 2nd period, you were feeling good!) You most likely had a bedtime or a curfew, a time limit maybe on the TV or video games, all so that you would do well on that test in the morning and not become a zombie like some of your friends who didn't have such involved parents. Call it strict; call it rules; call it whatever you want...Good parents take care of these vital parts of who we are as people, in hopes that we will catch on and do it for ourselves when we are on our own. It is no coincidence that people who eat healthy can run miles, and people who don't stay up until 2 a.m. everyday can think clearly and have better job performance. It is no coincidence. It's not luck and maybe not genes. It's discipline...Grace, yes, but discipline.

So in the same way, families who cultivate a relationship with God and surround their sons and daughters with godly instruction, prayer and devotional time, playing Christian music, going to church and having Christian friends over, even time set aside each day as "a quiet time", as well as maybe things like Bible Drill, youth camps, and AWANA are making a framework of faith for the whole family to live by. It is no coincidence that kids in strong Christian families often pray to receive Christ by the time they're 10 and often rededicate their lives to Christ by the time they go to college, because they are surrounded by God and the things of God. And it is no coincidence that when they leave home, they may not stay "close to God." I think maybe here's why...

This friend was telling me that when she was in high school, her whole life was what went on daily in that school and every night was preparation for the next day at that school. Those people, those halls, those clothes, that was life. Whatever her teachers led her to think about throughout the day, those were her thoughts most of her waking hours. Whatever her friends led her heart to care about through the day, those were her desires most of her waking hours. Whether we're at school, work, home, camp, whatever, we are being molded. The course of the river of our heart is being directed!!! All the time!!! So, when we leave the nest and there's no more disciplines as part of our schedule, it only takes a couple months to feel LOST. The disciplines cultivated in a godly home weren't anything in themselves, the rituals are not holy in themselves, but if a person was led to genuine prayer, worship, Bible Study, and personal time with God weekly, they may not even realize what is missing when they're on their own and feeling distant from God.

C.S Lewis said that we daily get up and brainwash ourselves! I know a lot of people probably have a problem with that statement, but I get it and I live it. We renew our minds daily and we get lost really quick if we don't. As my pastor and his wife have said, "We do not follow our hearts. We LEAD our hearts." We lead our hearts to setting still before the Lord, giving, worshipping, meeting with other believers. I don't think young adults are falling away from God because the church necessarily failed them or is too traditional or because their relationships with God were not real enough or deep enough. I think some of them are falling away for the exact same reason that I fall away so regularly!! Because they don't realize that it isn't GOD that is missing all of a sudden, but rather the things that helped them grow in Him that are missing all of a sudden. It's no coincidence that if we eat Twinkies for a week, we feel like crap! And it's no coincidence that if I don't open my Bible, meet with a believer, or come to God in confession and praise for a whole week, that I will feel lost and confused and scared that we have lost Him.

We have been fed a lie from the enemy that we are "not under law" and don't need disciplines, and that God is always with us, so that's enough. We've been fed the lie from the enemy that there isn't more to grasp in the Lord anyway, as long as we have these basics from our childhood. I have personally given into the lie from the enemy that this yucky feeling I have when I have not been spending quality time with the Lord is God being mad at me (for my lack of discipline and consistency), instead of the truth which is that yucky feeling is just this hole I have that my depth with Him used to fill. We have to lead our heart to the Living Water and drink! It doesn't have to look the same everyday, and it is okay to use whatever resources we need. It took me forever to realize that it was okay to use a devotional or Bible Study workbook instead of just the Bible. I have not depended on other believers much on my journey, but I am learning to! I believe if I move one inch in the direction of God--one page of my Bible, one moment of surrender, one verse of praise--He runs a mile to greet me and help me awaken my heart to Him.

So just like Daniel prayed in the morning, noon, and night--whether we're just now taking a step out of our home at 19 or 33 year old stay-at-home-momma like me or a 59 year old Grandma, we are all in the same boat! If we want to know the Lord, we can't expect Him to burn a bush! I am challenged to do something 3x a day, even if it is just for 5 or 10 minutes, to direct my heart, soul, mind, and strength to God. A verse to memorize. A praise CD in the player or on Pandora. A podcast. 3 paragraphs from a book by an author you know is diving into the depths of God. A short prayer walk. The answer of how to get "close to Him" again is never out of reach. He put the desire for that in us in the first place.

A Rough Day So Far!

I realize that many times on my blog I am only sitting down to write when I feel good and life is great and God is teaching me something cool. What's the point of sharing about the rough days? Just sounds like complaining! But...that is not sharing the whole truth and nothing but the truth! Today has been a rough day so far, and it is great to know that I can share it, have my mind renewed with truth from the Word and the Lord, and move on!

It's nothing big, just all these little things, like last night I got in bed early and couldn't sleep for at least 2 and a half hours. I had a horrible headache and just felt miserable. Then when I got up this morning, I got on the scale and after about 10 weeks of exercising 45 minutes 5 days a week and being wise and self-controlled in my eating, found that I still weigh exactly the same weight. I went out for a walk and the scariest, fattest, growliest dog on my road was not in his pen and came tearing across his yard to me while his owner screamed at him. I'm afraid of dogs in the first place, and all I could do was whimper, "God, please protect me. God, please protect me." I really was terrified, and thankfully the dog stopped at the edge of his yard. I was so angry and unfortunately had to spend the rest of my walk processing through what happened and discussing with myself whether or not I should go past that house ever again...and coming up with ugly threats if I ever got to speak with that owner, which I do plan on doing, minus the threats.

Then I come in the house to my sweet girls and their beautiful mess...but the mess really lies in the dust and dirt and dishes that has little to do with them. I've already gotten a lot of that cleaned, and I am so thankful just to have a house, but sometimes the constantness (making up words here) of keeping my house decent wears on me. Especially when I have my darling husband who piles stuff up in corners to collect dust and NEVER get put away...and then when he needs whatever he piled somewhere, he doesn't know where it is...and if I moved it, I'm responsible for where I put it and with the sheer amount of these objects I'm talking about, seriously, how can I remember? Plus, our house has some issues (like leaks in the basement and projects from a year and a half ago that never got finished yet the materials to finish the projects lay in piles inside my house). I am telling you, if a dump truck magically appeared at my house with 2 guys capable of carrying out stuff...

Okay, enough. Back to doing what I need to do, and at this very moment I am turning on some worship music and letting God do His magic in me! His mercies are new every morning! He is my Portion! He is my Joy! Bless the Lord, o my soul, and forget not all His benefits!!!!! We will conquer the dust and the aggravation with praise!

A Theology of Suffering

Some of the best advice I have ever heard for the modern day Church is this: "We had better develop our theology of suffering, because it's not going away." It seems like the Church really does not expect to suffer. We're still shocked by it, disappointed in God over it, and personally offended...yet it was promised over and over in the Bible. Living in safe and sweet America hasn't truly done us any favors spiritually. (But I am not saying I'm not grateful still.) I am so guilty of this. The first time I really suffered, it took counseling for me to unwrap my shock, indignation, and what felt like betrayal from God.

But something has been rolling around in my mind lately and I think I can finally articulate it, not that its anything new or rocket science status...For believers who really are trying to know and follow God personally, I think the thing that makes suffering really sting is that we do not believe it came from God. I know when I am suffering all I can think about is "how to get back in God's will." I want to RUN, conquer, win! I want no obstacles holding me back from a glorious life in Him, but that glorious life in Him isn't necessarily going to be found in the physical realm or in things leveling out, calming down, or getting easier. Instead of promising that picture we have in our minds of what "living in God's will" would look like, we are promised the cross. The cross comes in the form of suffering, and the suffering comes in the form of: dreams that do not come true, disappointments, failure, disease, tragedies...

Accepting the cross and not scorning its shame is a Key. It is sharing in the sufferings of Christ which He said we will have opportunity to do, and He is inviting us to not only share in those sufferings, He is inviting us to follow His example in the way He bore up under those sufferings. He knew He was in the perfect middle of the will of His Father; at different times, he felt the humility, the joy, and the abandonment, but He always could hold on to knowing He was in His Father's will. Whether you're suffering because you are sick on the mission field or suffering because you can't get a good job, when you live trusting in the Lord with all your heart, your suffering gets to accomplish a great work in you! You're in God's will! All those verses about suffering producing perseverance, character, and faith apply to you! I believe God's will is all about who you are right where you are. If you are connected to Him right here and now, there's no where else you're supposed to be. If jobs or locations or whatever need to change, you can bet those details will happen without a whole lot of hoopla. So...

Tonight, Selah (my 6 yr old) was really tired, and she said, "Life is so hard! I wish it was worth it. I wish we could just visit Heaven sometimes!" Now, let me backtrack a little. She said this because honestly, we have exposed her to a lot of suffering. She is my daughter, so it's inevitable. If she's going to be around me much, she is going to know about the persecuted church, what is going on in these countries, the drought/war/famine in Somalia, Kenya, and Ethiopia...but also, because she experienced adopting a little sis from Ethiopia, went through the same agony/learning experience we did, has a grandmother who suffers greatly in and out of the hospital, and we spend a good deal of time with people at the nursing home since her great grandfather lives there. She is exposed. Of course, she also thinks the fact that her finger was pricked at the doctor today is a national emergency, and we are very careful what images/language we allow her to see and hear regarding these things, but my point is this: Suffering is not going away. We can only protect ourselves and our kids so much, and we should only protect ourselves and our kids so much.

I preached a little sermon to Selah in Kroger when she said she wishes this life was worth it. She wanted to know why we even had to be here on earth if we were just here to fellowship with God and point others to His love. She said, "Why couldn't God just keep us all in Heaven and we wouldn't have to go through all this?" Good questions, sweet Selah. I don't know it all. But I am happy that I have truth to tell her. Truth about what she can see--I'm not sugarcoating the realities of suffering--and truth about what she cannot yet see--that our God is in control, that we are called to sacrificially show compassion around the world, and that King Jesus will come back someday. And when He does, we will see His very appropriate vengeance released that He has held back all this time. Read Isaiah! Read Revelation! We must develop and teach a theology of suffering from God's Word, not an American version of it that says it is God's job to keep us housed and fed and healthy. It doesn't matter what we like or what we wish were true.

The Beloved is being prepared for her Bridegroom, and this will come through the refining fire of suffering...in all shapes and sizes. We've got to see it for what it is and prepare our children for their refining fire, too. We kind of have to...grow up and stop skirting around it, closing our eyes and hoping it won't be there when we open them. Come Lord Jesus, and help us through Your Spirit until You do!

Excited

Before I go to bed tonight, I just have to type out some of my excitement. First of all, I just have to say GLORY to God because He has chosen to let me feel great this summer. I would love to get to continue this way. We will see what He has in mind. I hope I can handle it (well, I know I can't, so I will say, I will be relying on Him to make me handle it) if everything has to come to a screeching halt. Anyway, I'm rambling...Here's what I'm excited about!

I am excited about all this new school year brings. I love our homeschool curriculum (My Father's World, but we are also throwing in several other subjects and resources). I love that Selah is doing gymnastics. It was so much fun to watch her go around the gym and get to try out every single one of those cool things (cool to her; they just make my hands start sweating even looking at them). I love that my mom comes on Tuesdays, giving me a day to teach lessons again and prepare for things coming up, such as maybe leading songs at church one weekend or a concert. I'm excited about making a CD and getting to share these songs in concerts maybe once a month. I'm excited that by God's grace, and I do not say that lightly because He knows it's Him, I am out on my road running 5 mornings a week. And lastly, I am excited that I am going to be co-teaching Spanish and Missions 2 mornings a month to homeschoolers in FAITH's Enrichment program!

If that made your head spin, it did mine as well. We'll see if I make it to Christmas. Everything in my life right now feels very focused and led by the Lord (i hope!). I'm getting to teach and do many things that I have a passion for, but had completely given up and surrendered to God. I'm excited that when people said, "He'll bring that back in another season", they were right! I had to fully let go of these actually very normal things during those years of sickness. That sounds so pitiful, but it's not. God is teaching me so much about how He cherishes the weak, the unable, the despised...how He loves the humility and wisdom these things can accomplish in our lives. I understand a little bit now that things that embarrass or make us misunderstood are a gift from God.

Letting go of everything that I thought defined me, and for about 2 years only finding my identity in Christ because I had nothing else, (I didn't even have a hobby!) has made me alive. I died to what I wanted out of myself. I died to my somewhat unBiblical expectations of God. I died to what others thought of me. I died to the life I thought He wanted me to have, in order to finally and slowly embrace the life I do have. Somehow I am living in that grave still, because it is right where I need to stay...but because of the grave, resurrection becomes a possibility. Not resurrection of my goals or identities or activities or health, that doesn't matter in the least. That's just external stuff. Resurrection on the inside. Just like Jesus had to go to the grave before He was resurrected, we do, too. He gives us crosses-- to kill us-- in the same way that He gave us the law to show us we were incapable of keeping it! So when we finally give up and die and let go of our understanding of how to love and serve Him, then the Spirit finally has control and freedom and power and we stand literally amazed. That doesn't mean life becomes bigger and better, or ministry becomes bigger and better. It means there is no more striving to get somewhere else. There is rest and peace in the midst of daily obedience.

I have to say, if this whole thing I'm talking about was a download on my computer, I would say I have downloaded less than 1 %, but nonetheless...I am excited.

Being a Momma

I am going to give myself a grand total of 3 minutes to write...and then I must start my bedtime thing. 8:57 p.m.

I just put Yemi to bed for the first time in her big girl bed. She was SO excited. I left the rocking chair in there because I knew she wouldn't be ready to give up rocking time...hmmm. I sat down in it tonight and she came in and said, "I don't want to rock, just put me in my big bed!" 8:58 p.m.

I almost cried. Wow. I like giving away baby stuff; and i love the talking and doing things for themselves stage; but I wasn't quite ready for that. Then I prayed for her and was saying good night and she said, "You aren't going to rock me??" So, we did our normal little routine ending in Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. 8:59 p.m.

I have some absolutely adorable pictures to post but I don't have time tonight, hopefully tomorrow. Yemi turns 3 on Saturday and we'll be celebrating all weekend. She said she wants a donut, a cookie, and a cupcake for her birthday....she is SO my daughter. She is getting a Sesame Street floor puzzle and a really cool magnetic Usbourne puzzle book with a little brown girl named Abi in it that you get to dress in all kinds of stuff...Oops, I'm a bit over my time. 9:01 p.m. Gotta go! Enjoy the cute pics!

Pix from Holiday World

Making a CD and Much More...

I knew when I started recording this CD that God was up to something. I knew it had very little to do with music.

So, I went into it with a little bit of fear and trembling, because I had some clues of what He was thinking. And here we are with just a couple of sessions left (for me anyway, I'm sure there is a lot of work left for others to do!), and I'm seeing some glorious stuff! Well, God being glorious; me, not so much, as you will see if you continue reading.

I wanted to share three things that God is showing me through making this CD.

#1- He doesn't need me to make a CD, and I do not need to make a CD. It is not a need in any way, shape, or form. The need is this: To learn some things about myself and about how to please Him better with my life; to just obey even if I don't see a good reason to do it. I think, "I probably won't even do any concerts. I probably won't even sell any CDs, " and He is saying that isn't the point. The point is that I obey. And so, He provides the opportunities that will teach me these lessons.

#2- This is about the process, not the outcome. As in SO many other things in my life, God is concerned with HOW I do things, HOW I respond, more than actually WHAT I do. From the beginning of this project I have known that I was going to be given opportunities to handle frustration or difficulties. What a great object lesson for life! To realize that whatever happens, our attitude and faithfulness to praise Him/pray/love others/forgive is much more important than the action we were doing when that opportunity arose...whether that was getting groceries or working in a village in Africa! Therefore, I have learned that I am not a very grace-filled person. I'll give...until I'm done. Today I see a clear message from God: We can never give too much grace. There will never be a time that we are too kind and generous. Sure, we might have to make better decisions about who we work with, etc., next time, but for this time, for right now, let's see if we regret ever giving too much grace. I don't think it'll happen. (And by the way, I would never want to work with anyone other than the people I am working on with this CD! I was just playing out the example a bit.)

#3- Being in ministry and sort of on church staff for the past decade, I have seen many wonderful, beautiful people doing many wonderful, beautiful things. But I have also seen one thing almost always rear its ugly head...and that is this innate, protective, cloaked in a sense of responsibility, PRIDE. Pride is not necessarily thinking you are important or great or that God couldn't go on without you. Pride is WANTING to be important or great or invaluable to God, or wanting your church or ministry to be important, great, or invaluable to God. Pride can come in the form of being aggravated at others for not being as involved as you are in your particular ministry. Pride can come in the form of complaining that others are just not as committed or caring or sacrificial as you are. Pride can come in the form of you staying up all night to do a church project alone, because you feel responsible that it happens. Pride is there when we feel the need to protect our spiritual reputation, when we're afraid to say something in small group because we don't want to look like we are spiritually clueless, when we shrink back from asking someone to pray for us because we think they'll think something that is not true about us...that they'll think the worst when really it was a kind of small thing.

I don't think we get burnt out because there are so many people to pray for, minister to, or organize. I think we get burnt out because we begin to prioritize some things God never told us to prioritize, in our hearts, in our souls. We set goals and set our focus on lesser things than knowing Jesus and loving others. We receive a sense of responsibility that is really just condemnation because we think "our thing" needs to look like this and do these things...and our drivenness does nothing but drive others away. The fact is, and this is just a word of warning to myself as much as anyone else, we must be obedient and focused on what God tells us to do each season of our lives and TRUST that HE will take care of the results even if what He is saying seems so small and quite frankly, not a ladder to success. Spurring others on is part of it, for sure...but never ever ever ever ever for the sake of our ministry thriving or our church growing or for the identity and security of those who call themselves our shepherds. Spurring others on toward Jesus should have one goal: Those people being left in His hands for Him to tell what to do. And He may tell them to leave. It's okay. If it's not okay, then we are feeling the result of pride.

So, how this relates to the CD is that I have seen and fallen into these traps before, and I sense I could easily fall into it again by thinking that this CD is super important and worth being driven about, out of some warped understanding of the responsibility that I DO have to obey. Whether its a church or a ministry or an orphanage or my money or this CD, its not that I don't care. Its not that I don't think its a worthwhile undertaking. It's a priority because I was told to do it, but it's not more important or valuable than any other thing I am called to do such as make lunch every day for my family or pray for people God puts on my heart. In our hearts, I think we must come to grips with the facts that these things entrusted to us are not ours to be a part of our legacy, reputation, or story, and that they are not for us. It sounds like death to self and it is! But do you see what happens through this death, through saying farewell to all that self interest and self entrenched God-following, all that trying to impress God? When that death happens, we are set free to obey with a carefree spirit because we are no longer loaded down by the things that made our callings sort of scary and anxious and hard.

I think that's the point. Going about obedience in a childlike, carefree way. He didn't tell us to do things and to do them in certain ways to lay a heavy burden on us. He didn't tell us, "Go do this and impress me!" He certainly didn't say, "This is your baby. You've got one shot to get it right." We can be carefree as we obey because we are doing our part and we have crucified the part of us that is pridefully interested in the results.

As you can see, I am learning a lot about myself...and doing quite a bit of repenting, which is an enormous gift in itself. I have nothing if I don't have repentance. I am convinced all I have to offer God is my faith (which He produced in me to offer to Him), and all I have to offer others is my honesty.